I had been having a conversation with a friend who had worked for several years in a small family run company. She had started her working life there, had worked in each area of the company and as such had acquired many skills during that time.
Now the family was closing the company and she was really struggling to deal with the inevitability of this change that was coming. She had been feeling insecure, lost, fearful about the future and worried as to how she’d cope.
This isn’t unusual when we are confronted with our planet suddenly changing; a longterm relationship ends, our health suddenly suffers, the kids leave home or we reach an important birthday and life can appear quite frightening and uncertain.
It can be a large blow to our individuality, confidence and awareness of who we are. Our life span, once so quite clearly mapped out has become unrecognisable.
How do you deal when you realize that change is inevitable?
Grieve for the reduction of the familiar. Yes those automatic, regular patterns are now gone; the path to work, knowing where everything is, what is expected of you, the relationships, expectations and security. Accept that it is a lot to deal with and allow a period of time to heal and come to terms with the end of the portion of your life.
They have all contributed to you becoming the person you are now and can be seen as stepping-stones to your future, to who you will become. Relax and determine to keep on evolving, improving and growing.
For those who have dates and information about forthcoming intended changes use the opportunity to research, learn and understand what is being mooted.You can prepare emotionally and possibly even physically. Getting healthy and educated gives you greater control, and lets you make positive decisions regarding the part, if any, you might want to play in future changes.
Begin to plan ahead. Impending change can ask you to question if you would like to remain in exactly the exact same place or line of work. You will without doubt have made contacts within other companies in your area. You could introduce yourself, possibly form liaisons with individuals with complementary abilities, or even set something up by yourself. Might it be a fantastic time to explore what is available and move some of your skills to a different employer or business?
Research groups where you can make new friends, interests and improve your skills. Treat this time as a excellent opportunity to enhance your life. Lots of people will be in precisely the exact same position as you, starting out again for many different reasons. Make yourself available and encourage each other.
You have made new begins before! There will have been many times when you have had to adapt and accommodate change throughout your lifetime; change is unavoidable, with new schools, teachers, friends, houses, coworkers and ways of doing things often needing to be absorbed into your everyday life at several points.
Do not assume change will be difficult, unpleasant or awkward. Be positive and expect the opportunity to grow and improve, to possibly update your skills. Fight prejudging new opportunities as being too different, alien or difficult to you. You were fresh in your previous function once and learned to become the competent, skillful person you are now. It is time to direct it to a new house!
Your previous employer does not owe you anything; yes you have successfully worked together for several years, but they paid you for your services, respected and educated you, supported you on occasion. Life moves on and now it is their time to proceed. In addition, you need to, so begin accepting invitations to community, make new connections, get online and join classes. Then you can research what is out there and discover that which could be of interest or match you.